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Thursday, May 29, 2014

Be A Changer

At some point or another, we all need words of encouragement to fuel our souls and give us the inner strength we need to just keep going in life. There will be times where the sun will shine bright and everything is happy go lucky; but other times, you just want to crawl under a rock and just stay there forever.

The book of Ecclesiastes speaks about time. There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens. (Read chapter 1)

So, don’t beat yourself up if you’re having a bad day, because there is a time to laugh just as there is a time to weep. There will be days where you will be strong and courageous and will conquer the whole world. But then there will be days where you feel so weak, you won't even have the strength to hurt a fly. And I want to tell you that its ok to feel that way, it just shows that you’re human!
Scott Burdett

It is in those times that we must rely on people who can give us an encouraging word to uplift our spirits. Yes, we can go to the bible and God will give us the strength and power we need to jump right back up and shake off that funk that we’re in. But it’s so important to have a friend or a support group where you can go to and say, I need you right now and not feel ashamed about it. People who you can trust and know they will give you an honest word of encouragement.

Today, I encourage you to be a changer, to be an encourager, to lift up the hands of those who are weary and have no strength, may your words be medicine to their souls. We all long for encouragement. Your words, your act of presence, your smile, your “I’m here for you” your emails, text messages, phone calls, letters, Facebook post, tweets, or random act of kindness and generosity is what can help someone in a time of need.

The world is full of people who are lost, who have given up on hope, who are going through hardship and have no one to turn to for encouragement. Make yourself available to fulfill that need and bring a ray of sunlight into someone’s dark world. We are called to be the light of the world. (Read Matthew 5:14,15) You and I can make the difference. Be a changer!

I leave you below with a few encouraging words I found from the book “Encouragement Changes Everything” by John C. Maxwell.

In a later post, I will include more encouraging messages from this book because it’s just that amazing!

Be Encouraged, Be Blessed!
Landy Perez-Feliciano



1. Encouragement is oxygen to the soul.
-George Matthew Adams



2. An Experiment in Encouragement
Years ago, an experiment was conducted to measure people’s capacity to endure pain. How long could a bare-footed person stand in a bucket of ice water? It was discovered that when there was someone else present offering encouragement and support, the person standing in the ice water could tolerate pain twice as long as when no one else was present.


3. Encouragement is deciding to make your problem my problem.

-John C. Maxwell


4. Encourage Yourself

Don’t let yourself…
  • Worry when you’re doing your best.
  • Hurry when success depends on accuracy.
  • Think evil of anyone until you have the facts.
  • Believe a thing is impossible without trying it.
  • Waste time on trivial matters.
  • Imagine that good intentions are a satisfactory excuse.
  • Harbor bitterness toward God or person.


5. Let no feelings of discouragement prey upon you, and in the end you are sure to succeed.

-Abraham Lincoln


6. Positively Wired
A study was done by psychologist Henry H. Goddard on energy levels in children. He hooked children up to a device called an ergo graph to see how they would respond to the words of others. He found that when tired children were given a word of praise or commendation, the ergo graph showed they experienced an immediate surge in energy. But when the children were criticized or discouraged, the device showed their energy took a sudden nosedive.
Never underestimate the power of an encouraging word.

7. The greatest good you can do for another is not just share your riches, but to reveal to him his own.
-Benjamin Disraeli



Tuesday, July 23, 2013

Happiness is an inside job


I would like to express my appreciation to Landy for allowing me this great opportunity to be a guest blogger.  Also to congratulate her on the great achievement that is writing her book.  I am a fan of her writing.

 I would like to write about “Happiness is an inside job.”

 


I have learned that the road to happiness is not something you seek; it’s something that you choose in spite of the circumstances.   


The more you look for ways to make yourself happy, the longer the detour.  Seeking happiness is a dead end street. No “one” thing on earth can give it.  It is only through God and through making a daily decision to be happy, that it can achieved. 

Last year, I experienced depression for the first time in my life.  This happened after many months of horrific events, constant stress and on top of that, the death of my brother.  I reached a breaking point where being or staying strong wasn’t an option.  I cried all the time, could barely get out of bed, had to force myself to eat and could barely sleep.  Hours turned to days, days to weeks & weeks to months. I was desperate, I wanted to be myself; I missed me.  If there is  one lesson I learned from that experience is never to tell anyone that is going thru something like that  “get over it” because as much as I tried, I couldn’t.  I did absolutely everything I knew to do, pray, read the bible, hear sermons, and meditate day & night. I mean it! Everything except VOODOO!!!! LOL

This is a time when only your true friends remain and your family becomes your life lines.  Because the recovery requires so much support and understanding; you must surround yourself with people who believe you will get better. My husband became more than a husband, he became my hero.  He didn’t believe for one minute that I would stay in that turmoil.  He constantly encouraged and loved me in the midst of this dark time. I never felt rushed, misunderstood, or as if I was a burden to him.  He loved me thru it. My sisters, nieces and nephews were my life lines; I drew what little strength I could muster from them.  They never left me; I felt their love and support all the way thru. 
 
I wish I could tell you I used a magic wand to get better but I can’t. It took hard work, time and persistence.  I was determined to get better.  How did I do it? I allowed myself time to heal, I rested, and I started to exercise, just walking at first.  But probably the most helpful was talking; talking to my family and good friends. I went to a Christian counselor that helped me put things into perspective.  Slowly but surely I began to feel better.  Because my depression had passed the three month mark, my counselor recommended meds.  As apprehensive as I was to taking them, I was desperate; my kids needed me, I could not remain in this state. For the sake of myself and my family, I was willing to do whatever it took.  Within a week or two I began to see color again.  I felt as if a tiny window had opened up inside my dark place from which a ray of sunshine was peeking through. That’s when my journey to wellness began. I won’t tell you I don’t have bad days, because I do.  But they are rare and far in between.  I choose happiness, joy, and peace every morning. And yes there are days when every one of those is tested and I fail miserably, but I pick up again the next day. 

 
Your road to wellness might be completely different than mine, everyone has their own path.  But the one thing we must all do is, persevere.  Do whatever it takes to get better. We have to realize that we are not the only ones being affected. Our kids, our families, the people who love us, are all affected. The longer you wait to seek help, the more precious time you lose with those you love.  Those months felt like a lifetime to me; don’t waste another minute of your life being unhappy. 
 
That is not the life God intended for us to have;
He came so that we may have life and have it more abundantly.

Remember, Happiness is an inside job!

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: http://fourgirlsandalady.blogspot.com/